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Socialization

Now, of course, socialization has its effect on us all to some degree. There is a part of the female mind that clearly informs and warns her that this “Hard Hearted, Rebel Without A Clue” will eventually use and abuse, hurt and desert her. But biology is biology, and when the ”Bad Boy” steps onto the stage, surrounded by a bunch of half hearted, semi- potent, limp-dicked, “mumbly-men”, well, this aggressively dangerous and powerful punk just seems to light her up and gets those womanly juices flowing. She simply can’t help herself, as it’s nature making its call to the wild, and she will respond in kind, ….. WILDLY!  

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  Ok., so we are agreed that it is a given biological and psychological fact that is simply undeniable and not even worthy of debate. Chicks are just naturally, automatically attracted to guys that are confident and comfortable with themselves. Especially when uk sex

happen to be around a woman or group of women with whom they are seeking some form of romantic or physical interaction. So to precisely what degree is this particular quality of confidence and self-assuredness important to women and why? Well, actually, they’re a couple of very good questions. Let’s turn it over to the ladies and see what they say about it.  

How important is it to you, that a man who is interested in making a “Connection” with you, comes across as being fully confident, cool and comfortable within the given situation?  

Absolutely Vital: 63%  

Very Important: 28%  

Important: 7%  

Relatively Important: 2%  

No Big Deal: 0%  

WOW, over 90% say it is either “Absolutely Vital” or “Very Important” that a guy strikes the woman as being one who has his act together socially, and is self-assured, and very comfortable around women and in social environments. Also note that not a single woman interviewed said that it was “No Big Deal” to them, which assures us without a shadow of a doubt that this is definitely an enormously “Big Deal!”  

Now, in all complete fairness, I must tell you that during ensuing conversations about this particular question, though not during the direct answering of the survey questions themselves, it was revealed that a few of the ladies polled in this survey did openly admit that on special occasions, they do like to occasionally enjoy the act of “playing with” a weak, submissive or wimpy man. Either for the purpose of simply abusing and humiliating him to no end, just to see how far a weak man will allow the humiliation to go, and see precisely what they can get away with, and also in cases where the given woman has inclinations to play domination games as a sexual outlet, whether all-out S and M games, or tamer and less dramatic forms of simply playing controlling the role of a “Dominatrix.”  

Dating software or white label dating site?

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A lot of webmasters who want to earn money by running a dating site face a tough question: a dating software or a white label solution? The first option can be very expensive. Just a basic scetch: a dating software costs around 2 thousand dollars (including fine-tuning). In order to run a good site simple hosting won’t be enough, so you will have to rent a server, which is 150 dollars per month, and a standalone IP which 15 dollars per month. So, what we have: 2165 dollars just start with plus 165 dollars per month for recurring costs just for a possibility to run a website.

You will have to add new features, so you need to hire a programmer. Even part-time freelancer from India will cost you around 500 dollars per month. Have you seen any good websites without support? Add at least two, 500 dollars per month for dayshifts and 1000 dollars for night shifts. Hope these support workers will do billing. Otherwise you need an accountant. With the least it’s already 2165 dollars of monthly recurring costs.

Please note, that it doesn’t grant you that you will have any members. So you will have to do marketing.

Another option is to run a white label solution. It’s absolutely free to run a website. All you have to pay for is domain – 10 dollars per year. They will host it, do the billing, add new features for free. Let’s say you will invest those 2165 + 2000 dollars of recurring costs monthly on PPC advertising or SEO. While you will only pay that money for your site existence, in this case you will promote it heavily and earn money.

What is more important is that when you create a dating site using white label solution, your site gets a multi-million database of users. When you run a self hosted site, even if you have 1 thousand of registered members (which is not that easy to get), will it be interesting for those people to use it? With anyone in their city.

My choice is white label. If I run a PPC campaign, even considering the revenue share model, I receive great return of investment.

Dating Tips Online. Dumping (or Being Dumped) with Class

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Dumping (or Being Dumped) with Class Everyone online is forced to make quick decisions based on minor things that we pick up along the way. It's just the way the system works. So when somebody stops corresponding with you (and they will, at some point), don't take it too hard. It's not about you. It's about all the other people out there that are vying for the same per¬son's affections. This is a classic meat market, and there's no point in worrying all that much if some guy likes roast beef when you're the finest smoked turkey around. Know what I mean?

What I urge to everyone when "dumping" someone, whether after an email, a phone call, a date, or a relationship, is to follow the golden rule. If you think it's best to just stop calling someone without an explanation because that's the way you like to be rejected, very well. I can't tell you whether you're right or wrong. I do know, however, that this medium allows people to say things that they'd never say in real life, and they often forget they're talking to a human being. It's much better to make up a white lie like, "I just started seeing someone else and it's starting to get serious, so unfortunately, this isn't the right time for us," than to say, "I can't date someone who doesn't have a job," or "I'm just not that attracted to you." This happens all the time, and you can't take it personally. Rudeness is a statement about the person being rude, not about the recipient of the insult. You're better off without that person in your life anyway.

The First Four Dates - Online Dating For Seniors

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A lot of attention is often focused on the first internet date, to the extent that sometimes people lose sight of the real goal of online dating. To be successful you have to get beyond date number one and navigate your way to date number four and beyond. Developing ideas for what to do with a partner once you get beyond the first date is a good idea and sets you up for success. Here are some guidelines that can help.

Date #1. The purpose of this date is to get a firsthand impression of the other person and determine if there is a foundation to build on. Lots of active conversation is essential. That is why most people recommend you meet in a restaurant for lunch or coffee. Meeting for a drink at a bar can also work if the bar is not too noisy and if you meet in the afternoon rather than the evening. You want to be on your best behavior and make a good impression, so it is important to keep alcohol at a minimum. Both parties should drive separately to the meeting place and both should still keep their address and home phone number to themselves. It is also very important for the man to put the woman at her ease and to show sensitivity to her concerns about safety. Under no circumstances should either person get in the other's car and drive somewhere on the first date. Senior women value courtesy, so it is a good idea to walk the woman to her car after the meal. Sometimes the woman will offer a perfunctory peck on the lips in saying good-bye, but this is definitely not the time to enjoy a real first kiss. The first date is a definite success when both of you decide there is enough interest to meet again.

Date #2. Another afternoon session is called for, with each of you still keeping your address and home phone to yourselves. Sometimes people want to move on to a romantic dinner in the evening because the first meeting went so well - but resist that temptation. What is needed is more conversation without the emphasis on romantic expectations. Some people will want to move on to doing an activity together, as is recommended for date #3 but that also may be hurrying the relationship too much. If the first meeting was for coffee, the second date should certainly be for lunch. Once again the focus should be on lots of conversation as you get to know each other better. Again, I would suggest walking the woman to her vehicle. The second date is also too early for that first kiss.

Date #3. It is time to spend a greater length of time together. One great way to do that is to do an activity - go to a museum, visit botanical gardens, spend time at a neighborhood festival, or drive through the mountains for an afternoon. Your day should include eating lunch and spending time in a car together as well as walking around at public events. Your addresses should still be unknown, so you should make arrangements to meet somewhere public so that one of you can get in the other's vehicle for the trip. Spending a large part of a day together leads to much more conversation and gives you an idea of how compatible you are as you do things together. Upon returning to the vehicle at the end of your activity, you might find a good opportunity for that first kiss if the day has gone very well.

Date #4. If the relationship has continued to progress through the first three dates, then it is time to plan a romantic dinner. By now the woman should feel comfortable letting the man know her address so he can pick her up at home to go to dinner. This will be a second time they have been alone in a car together, but there should be no concern because of what each has already learned about the other. If the evening goes well, there should certainly be a good night kiss at the door. For the most part, senior men will have carried the initiative up to this point - asking for dates and suggesting what to do on the next date; but after three dates, it's time for the woman to show initiative if she really likes the man and wants the relationship to continue to progress. She can do that on the fourth date by inviting him in for dessert or a glass of wine. She may even decide that date #5 will be dinner at her house.

Exclusivity and Sex. The progression of four dates I have described will be preferred by people over 50, but younger people may find themselves moving toward sex and even exclusivity in fewer dates. It is the individual couple that decides when sex and exclusivity become appropriate for them. In senior citizens, sex is not likely to become a viable issue until the fourth date or after. In my own case, I have been in two relationships in which I decided after the third date that I would be exclusive with my partner but I felt it was too soon to tell my partner I wanted them to be exclusive with me.

Every relationship has its own rhythms and realities. My guidelines for the first four dates can be helpful in putting couples at ease as they find relationships they want to continue.